About Stanley

I had been thinking about infatuation and unrequited love and the time when you decide you've got to get a grip. To an observer it can seem like a complete overreaction if you are nursing a broken heart and nothing has really happened between you and the object of your affection.

But all sorts of things can have been happening in your head. I thought it would be great if there was a phrase for this, so if someone noticed you seemed a bit down, you could say to them "Don't mind me, I've just finished with my imaginary boyfriend/girlfriend" and they would understand.

I sat down to write a poem based on this idea but before I knew what was happening I'd created an actual imaginary boyfriend for myself, like the imaginary friends children sometimes have.

For quite a while the poem was called 'My Imaginary Boyfriend'. It already had the line 'he has no second name' and I was walking past the Houses of Parliament on my way to work when it dawned on me that the title of the poem needed to be my imaginary boyfriend's first name and that his name was Stanley.

Stanley

Yesterday evening I finished
with my imaginary boyfriend.
He knew what I was going to say
before I said it which was top of my list
of reasons why we should end it.

My other reasons were as follows:
he always does exactly what I tell him;
nothing in our relationship has ever surprised me;
he has no second name.

He took it very well
all things considered.
He told me I was to think of him
as a friend and if I ever need him
I know where he is.

JaneAspinall
JaneAspinall posted a comment
Wednesday 11th Aug 2010 11:27
I love this poem. I heard you read at the Whitworth in Manchester and bought your book straight away. I love "Say I forgot" and "Chair" too and every time I read the Jessica Elton poems I think of some new and old hurt. I am now buying copies of your book for my friends.

I think you must be a very brave person to create poems so startlingly and unaffectedly different from anything else I have heard or read. I have written about you on my website janeaspinallpoetry.com If anyone hasnt read Lorraine Mariner then they are missing out.

Thank you
 
griffin
griffin posted a comment
Tuesday 7th Sep 2010 11:07
Where can I find more poems from this collection? It is expensive, and not always a good idea, to buy books just after reading one poem from it.
 
Mick
Mick posted a comment
Sunday 12th Sep 2010 10:35
Beautiful confession - I think I used to date your imaginary boyfriend's sister . . .
 

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